Online dating has blurred the gender roles line when it comes to romance and courtship. These days, anyone can make the first move. Anyone can propose to make things serious. So, with this in mind, is being a gentleman still important?
The answer is yes; a thousand times yes. It has never been more important for men to step up. Below are a few tips on how to be a true gentleman when online dating.
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- Complement her without being inappropriate
There is a fine line between being a gentleman and being a sleaze when it comes to complementing a girl online. Trust me you do not want to cross this line. The best thing to do here is to be aware of what might come across as inappropriate. Instead, go with safe complements like ‘I like your smile’ or ‘You look amazing in that dress’ and so on.
- Don’t leave her hanging
Are you familiar with the term ghosting? Ghosting is where a person without warning stops communicating with someone they connected with online. It is something you should avoid at all costs as it is not only annoying but also hurtful and confusing for the girl. If for some reason you just aren’t feeling it anymore, man up and let her know. You at the very least owe her that closure.
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- Be the first to text whenever you can
With online dating, you may not have many opportunities to play the gentleman’s role of initiating. You, therefore, have to take the few chances whenever they come up. The best of these is texting first. It might seem simple, but it is one of those things that make girls online crazy for a guy.
- Show some interest
Yes, you have a great job. Yes, you love your dog. Yes, you have many awesome stories to tell. But you are not the only one in the conversation. As much as it is important to be interesting, it is the right thing to do as a gentleman to be interested. Ask her about herself, actually, listen and make an effort to remember.
- Tone down on the flashy profile photos
Real gentlemen don’t show off. So, keep things like photos with fancy cars and topless photos off of your profile. It creates a playboy image you might not want to associate with.
- Unsolicited nudes are a huge no-no
No one wants a random picture of some naked guy on their phone. So, don’t be that guy. You might think it is cute or even funny, but it could cost you a great connection. Even if you are dealing with a girl who is up for that kind of fun, it is ALWAYS best to first ask before sending.
- Know when to fold
Another important gentleman move you should learn is knowing when to give up. With online dating, not every girl you talk to will remain interested. So, if a girl wants to move on do not insist on holding on. Let go and continue with your search.